Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Excavation and Forgiveness


Big doin's around here. At least in my head. I'm back to working on forgiveness. And this time it is a little closer to home. This person is someone who is still in my life and is likely to be for a good, long time. And, while I knew somewhere deep in my ugly innards that I hadn't forgiven her, I didn't honestly think about it much, or acknowledge that this might be a problem. But I've bumped up against it hard lately and it is causing a swirling ball of heartburn in my gut.











**Same issue of Tricycle Magazine. The article is The Seventh Zen Precept: Not Elevating Oneself and Blaming Others, written by Nancy Baker

8 comments:

chris said...

very wise words

Elizabeth said...

I have chills. As I began reading your post, I immediately thought about an article that I had read just this morning that I needed to remember for you but I couldn't remember what, exactly, it was and where it appeared. And then I kept on reading your post and IT WAS THE SAME ARTICLE! From the Winter Tricycle.

How weird and wonderful is that? The article really resonated with me as well -- I can't stop thinking about it, actually.

Diana @Hormonal Imbalances said...

Holy wow. This was like reading my own thoughts lately. It's like you crawled into my head.

I struggle with this every.single.day. And how you put it is perfect - it's me. Not her. It's me.

I can't even tell you what your post means to me right now.

Dee said...

Dear Kario,

Thank you for so openly sharing what all of us have to deal with throughout our lives. Forgiveness is sometimes so hard and your realization that the problem is yourself is such a blessing. Part of that blessing I hope is that because you are your own problem, you, too, need forgiveness. I think we all need to be a little more gracious to ourselves when we begin to explore those dark places that trip us up.
Thank you for your help.

Sandi said...

Hi Kario,
Double wow. Double, because I went back and read it again. It struck me about half way through the first time that I could have written those words - about myself! Even when I went back to read your words again, they were echoing in my head . . . forgiveness needs to begin within. I can't thank you enough for your post. It will be with me for awhile.

Deb Shucka said...

Almost always that's the case: the problem lies within. Can't tell you how much that both pisses me off, and reassures me. Great insights here.

Jill of All Trades said...

Oh my goodness how perfect was it that I read this post today. I'm dealing with a family member and I have come to decide that she will never change even though my expectations want her too, she is who she is and has always been and I should never have expected any less. I'm letting it go. Thank you for this little word of advice. I'm moving on.

fullsoulahead.com said...

"I am quick to judge this particular person, all the while silently accusing her of being too critical of others."

Incredible self-awareness. I hate when that happens! LOL.

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